Three Phases of Relationship

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Three Phases of Relationship

  1. Acceptance

Yes, you became a desiccated, yellow frog

Yes, you turned inward as

the gates locked behind you

left me standing on the risers

in my ivory sheath with the cowl collar

mortarboard askew

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2. Harvest the good

Books. 

You savored them like cream soup

warm, rich, filling, coating the palate

You fed them to me, read them to me

gave me freedom:

checking account, contraception

gave me trust:

to wander across France

with my twenty-one-year-old cousin.

I was fifteen. 

Sumptuous fruit

from a working mother

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3. Forgive everything else

The distraction, empty eyes

endless phone calls

lessons you should have taught

about sex, mothering, marriage

lessons you modeled

about manipulation

your wordless departure

sounded like abandonment

since we never said

a proper goodbye

Better than the Alternative

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It was a sobering experience,

trying on brassieres in Target.

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Full disclosure:

It’s been at least four years

since I bought a bra.

And probably more

than four pounds.

But I was tired of

gorilla underwear.

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In lingerie,

I got the size I was before—

34B.

No underwires, you know.

They obstruct the chi flow.

But look at the flesh

bulging over the sides.

(Don’t look at the belly below.)

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When did this S shape

creep up on me?

When did my waist ascend?

The size I thought I was

I am no more.

Remember 32A?  32B?

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To me in the mirror, I say,

“This is what 71 looks like.

You are healthy.

You are alive.

You’ve escaped Covid.”

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I hang the lacy 34Bs

on the return rack:

the polka-dotted beige satin,

the striped gray cotton,

the black floral.

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Again, I scan the displays. Pick out any 36B.

Buy the ones that fit.